24 Weeks and Sleeping Frustrations

Time for a long overdue update, inspired by sleepless nights!

This past weekend was my first mother's day with a live child in my arms. While the entire day I was blessed to spend time with loved ones - I still felt a little off. One of my blogger friends described this feeling as "survivors guilt" and it's so true. For those of us who went through IF to conviece our children - I do not think we ever fully recover from that pain. Of course we are beyond happy with our blessings - but we know that there are women out there who are dying for the same gift. And days like Mother's Day break their hearts ... we remember that pain all too clearly. I still pray daily for the friends I left behind when Henry joined us!

Henry Update:

Nursing: Henry and I are continuing our nursing relationship. He can be distractable, especially when he's not quite hungry. If he gets too many solids, he also doesn't nurse as well. I am thinking of moving to a 4 hour schedule to see if that helps - but I want to make sure he's still getting enough milk in his diet.

Solids: Henry now eats rice cereal, bananas, green beans, and sweet potatos. This week we are going to introduce peas and pears. See sample schedule below.

Waketime Length: He is now able to be awake for about 2 hours at a time. Sometimes, especially his first wake of the morning, this is still only 1 hour 45 minutes.

Naps: Henry continues to only nap for 30-45 minutes. Once in a while he'll sleep for over an hour, but these are rare and far between. He takes 3 naps a day. Most of the time he goes right down for a nap, but every once in a while we have to do CIO and battle the roll over monster.

Sample Schedule: Right now his schedule looks something like this:

7am: wake/nurse/2 T of rice cereal
9am: nap
10am: nurse/2 T of green beans or sweet potatos or banana
11:45am: nap
1pm: nurse
4pm: nurse/ 2 T of rice cereal
7pm: nurse/bedtime


Nighttime Sleep: Here is where the drama unfolds. Henry was sleeping beautifully from 7 to 6:30/7 for about 3 weeks. Then last week he caught a little cold and woke up in the middle of the night because he couldn't breathe. He also began rolling to his tummy in his crib at this time. The first night I nursed him, then put him in his carseat - the uprightness of that position helped his breathing. Since then - he has been up everynight. And after an hour or two of me being awake, I give in and bring him into our bed, where he's out like a light. I know - bad mommy. Last night was the worst - as he was awake from 12:20 until well after 2:30am - just happy to be awake. I didn't bring him into bed out of my own stubbornness, and now I'm tired as a result!

According to Babywise Theory, there is something called 5-8 Month Sleep Disruptions, and here are their suggestions of possible causes:

Teething
Ready to Drop 3rd Nap
Growth Spurt
Change in Routine

Plus, he had a cold, so I originally thought that was the problem. He still has a bit of a runny nose and congestion.

I thought that teething may be part of the problem - but he's not really extra fussy during the day and his gums look normal. He's extra chewy on my fingers, but he is using his back gums for this - is that normal if his teeth are coming in the front?

I'm thinking about trying to turn the 3rd nap into a shorter cat nap - but that would require him to take longer naps during the day and we all have seen how well that works. There is the suggestion of leaving him in his crib for the full 90 minutes and let him CIO once he's awake and eventually he'll learn that it's nap time no matter when he wakes up. But sometimes he wakes up happy and ready to go after 45 minutes, and sometimes he does wake up crying and I can tell he needs more sleep. The crying times we try to finish the nap in the swing - sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.

Some people have also expressed concern that he goes to bed too early - but I know he needs 14-16 hours of sleep a day - and when he only naps for not even 3 hours during the day, I know he needs atleast 11 hours of sleep by night. And he was doing that.

So - the trial and error process begins. Unfortunately to try to rearrange his sleep in his nap schedule, this would involve staying home for a couple days and really working on it. Which is no fun for mommy - but we'll have to give it a try.... starting tomorrow because today is mall walking day, and I need my food court stromboli!! :)